Polyamory
is a five syllable word
that gets attention.
It would be great if there was such a thing. Just people abundantly in love, and sharing it freely in a special way among all their partners. Sweet.
Hello?!?
That is NOT what I think happens. I think most people do not want to share their partner with someone else. Neither an extra male or female. I would feel insecure, jealous, uncertain and confused every time I was the odd partner (if it’s a non-even number.)
I tried to get my arms around the idea. Like a mental group hug. It just wasn’t working for me.
It’s really OK about needing and wanting others in your life, and having truly deep and meaningful relationships with more than one person. Even the most perfect “spouse-partner-lover-friend-buddy-teacher-follower-unicorn” can’t be everything.
We really do need to love other friends and close ones. But it is love love, and not Love-love.
When it comes to the most personal and intimate parts of closeness, that’s how I’d like mine to stay; personal and intimate.
Missed Connections are filled with good, bad and entre-nous-haiku. Did you write one? Did you find one? Before you send off a query to Dan Savage, email the link to Lovelorn Poets! We’ll preserve those spousal-sharing-syllables for all eternity.